Week Six: Halfway!

Week Six, Date 1. Ultramarathoner again. He's starting to grow on me. But today's "Survivor" party could have been a bit much - after all I've never seen this particular TV show before. Luckily, his friends (who I meet for the first time) talk during the whole thing and turn out to be 1) fantastic cooks, 2) generous with the wine, 3) friendly and fun and 4) have some ultimate players among their ranks (Ok - maybe I exaggerate - one person played in college, another woman was on my spring league team some years ago).

To answer some queries from the commenters – yes, I sometimes think about him when he’s not there, but the whole "gut check" thing says I'm not head over heels. Maybe he'll grow on me more over time? And yes, I have kissed him and it didn't suck.

This week, I only go on two dates - falling short of my goal AGAIN. Since I'm halfway, I guess I'll summarize the what's happened so far. I've gone on 17 different dates (just one shy of the 18 date goal) with 10 different people. I guess I've learned that there are some great and available guys out there. Also, since dating has been my focus, I've gotten a lot of good advice and some excellent support - thank you!!

Week Six, Date 2. My friend from Ashland sets me up with a sign interpreter from her daughter's class. We walk to downtown Ashland to one of my favorite brew pubs. I don't have much in common with this guy, although he's very sweet and nice. I feel like I'm struggling to make conversation, and that we aren't really interested in the same things at all. But my friend who set me up on the date thinks I'm not giving him a chance.

Can you make yourself like and/or love someone if you want to be in a relationship? My gut says "no". But maybe that's why I haven't found anyone yet?